Success largely boils down to a simple distinction. It’s glaringly obvious once you see it, but also easy to find ingenious ways of ignoring it: do the real thing and stop doing fake alternatives. Consider one person who wrote to me saying she turned down a job working in French. She didn’t feel her French …
Many of us know someone who genuinely seems to enjoy routines: My most popular article from last year was about how to learn to love self-discipline, and routines raise the same basic question: Are routine-lovers wired differently, or is loving routines just a nut you haven’t cracked yet? The answer is probably a bit of both. …
I usually like to keep things positive. I like to talk with my clients about what they can do to improve themselves and promote better mental and physical health. However, part of my job is to help people identify behavior patterns that prevent them from reaching their goals. That means that we have to talk about …
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You want that new video game so badly, but you’re trying to knock your credit card balance down. Or you’re binging your favorite TV show and can’t wait to find out if a character lives, but it’s late, and you need to be alert for work tomorrow. Just exert a little self-control, you tell yourself. But …
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When most people think about success, they imagine achieving a big goal: landing the dream job, running a thriving business, or getting in the best shape of their lives. But the truth is, success isn’t just about reaching the finish line—it’s about getting there in a way that’s balanced, meaningful, and even enjoyable. I want …
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Good morning, You’ve been staring at that blank document for three days now. Waiting for inspiration. Waiting for the perfect opening line. Waiting for your brain to feel sharp and creative and ready to produce genius-level work. Meanwhile, that project deadline is getting closer and your anxiety is getting louder. Here’s what nobody tells you …
The direction of our lives is decided more by the daily choices we make than anything else. And these choices are more influential to the person we are becoming than we often realize. Habits become ingrained, automatic, and often slowly creep into your life so subtly that they become routine. So if you want to …
I want to start this post with an apology because I know you’ve heard some version of this sales pitch before: Do you want to be happier? Healthier? Lose those love handles? Become wealthier? More successful in your career? Or enjoy a life filled with growth, contribution, and purpose? If so, read on. In an internet space filled …
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Many people think that if they’re determined enough — if they push themselves really hard — they’ll be able to create better habits. Those people are missing an important piece to the puzzle of self-control, according to James Clear, author of The New York Times bestselling book “Atomic Habits.” Even if you’re disciplined, you likely need to …
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MOST people don’t struggle with working out, they struggle with sticking to it. Motivation feels exciting at first, but it fades quickly. Life gets busy, work drains your energy, and weather, stress, and low mood all make it easy to skip “just one” workout… which can easily turn into several. “The truth is consistency has …
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